Bob Dole & Phyllis Holden: The Senator Who Simply Said 'I Want Out'

What Happened

Phyllis Holden was an occupational therapist at the Percy Jones Army Medical Center in Battle Creek, Michigan, when she met Captain Bob Dole in March 1948. Dole was recovering from devastating war wounds that had left his right arm permanently disabled. Holden helped him through his rehabilitation, and they married in June 1948. She had literally nursed him back to health, and their bond seemed unbreakable.

For 23 years, Phyllis supported Dole's transition from wounded veteran to Kansas politician. She raised their daughter Robin, born in 1954, largely alone while Dole built his career in Washington. She campaigned for him, managed the household, and endured the loneliness of being a political wife in an era when senators spent most of their time in the capital.

One evening in December 1970, Dole walked upstairs and simply announced: 'I want out.' There was no extended discussion, no counseling, no attempt at reconciliation. The divorce was finalized on January 11, 1972, the day after Phyllis's 48th birthday. The timing felt deliberately cruel, though Dole never explained it. Within months, he began a relationship with Elizabeth Hanford, a rising star in Washington who would become his second wife in 1975.

Phyllis returned to Kansas, married rancher Lou Buzick in 1972, and lived a quiet life working in physical therapy. She never spoke publicly against Dole, and when asked about him during his 1996 presidential campaign, she responded graciously. She died in 2008 at 83. The case is a stark reminder that sometimes there is no dramatic scandal, just a partner who decides they have outgrown the marriage and leaves without warning.

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